BREAKING THE ICE WITH THE FATHER IN-LAW

By E.G. Brady

My old friend “A” of Forcados fame, possibly the last of the great Canadian bullfighters, was telling me about a European industrial tycoon father-in-law he almost got saddled with, who would say (with a thick Czech accent) things like, “When you marry my daughter, you won’t be teaching English anymore, you’ll be working for me. My grandchildren must have everything they need.” I’m so lucky! Just to give you, indulgent reader, an idea of how fortunate I am in the father-in-law department, let me tell you the story of my first excursion with my then future suegro. His daughter and I were playing the dating game, and I was still at the trying-to-get-in-good-with-her-family stage. Slim, vigorous, not that much older than I am, he was always very nice to me in a casual, joking sort of way. Usually I’d see him in the back patio at his workbench making jewelry, and one day he suggested we go up together to las minas, the mines. His wife cried out in horror, “Oh, no, not las minas, it’s so dangerous, you can’t take him up there!” which only made us machos more determined that we should go, so we agreed to meet back at the house at 7 AM the next day. We remained adamant throughout breakfast, while la Sra hovered over us with coffee and advice and fresh tortillas, and my beloved remained abed in the back room, but as we approached the hillside bus stop he observed that the weather did not look favorable and maybe we should go into town instead. He showed me a jam jar full of water and fire opals, golden opals, even black opals from his hometown in Jalisco. They blazed iridescently in the morning sun. We hailed a passing bus and went to an upstairs restaurant in the Mercado, and spent the morning drinking Nescafe waiting for an opal buyer who never arrived. He mentioned that he was a card carrying member of the local

composers’ association, and next thing I knew we were heading to my bachelor pad with a bottle of Cabritos tequila for a jam session. Back then I was the token gringo in a Mexican rock band, playing almost every night, and my Zona Dorada pad was the rehearsal room and party headquarters, so the place was a bit of a mess (shockingly so, in fact). There were no clean glasses, and you couldn’t get close enough to the kitchen sink to wash one, so we just sat down at the table and passed the bottle back and forth. “What kind of seeds are these?” he asked ironically, picking a few off the table. “Grape seeds, I think.” “No, they don’t look like grape seeds.” “Oh, I know, they’re bird seeds, our drummer brought his parrot here.” “Oh, sure. Bird seeds.” We broke out the guitars and he strummed with a black pocket comb and played a medley of his corridos, rancheras and baladas that sounded like Willie Nelson singing Cielito Lindo, beautiful stuff. I picked along as innocuously as I could, and we had a pretty good time. It being summer, as the afternoon wore on the heat became oppressive so we retreated to the air conditioned recamara and sat on the bed watching the Three Stooges and baseball until the tequila ran out. It was Guy Heaven. I hadn’t got much sleep the night before, and at some point I slipped down and nodded off on the floor. When I woke up it was dark and my beloved’s father was asleep on the bed. It wasn’t as bad as the scene in Planes, Trains etc where Steve Martin wakes up next to John Candy, but it was a surprise twist on the old who’s-this-in-my-bed-and-why-does-my-head-hurt-so-much routine. To think that I got further with him than I had with his daughter at that point. I guess you could say that we bonded that day. Now my kids call him Abuelito and we do our best to appear dignified and respectable at family gatherings, and I’m so glad to have a cool suegro.

 


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