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My old friend “A” of Forcados fame, possibly the last of the great Canadian
bullfighters, was telling me about a European industrial tycoon father-in-law
he almost got saddled with, who would say (with a thick Czech accent)
things like, “When you marry my daughter, you won’t be teaching English
anymore, you’ll be working for me. My grandchildren must have everything
they need.” I’m so lucky! Just to give you, indulgent reader, an idea
of how fortunate I am in the father-in-law department, let me tell you
the story of my first excursion with my then future suegro. His daughter
and I were playing the dating game, and I was still at the trying-to-get-in-good-with-her-family
stage. Slim, vigorous, not that much older than I am, he was always very
nice to me in a casual, joking sort of way. Usually I’d see him in the
back patio at his workbench making jewelry, and one day he suggested we
go up together to las minas, the mines. His wife cried out in horror,
“Oh, no, not las minas, it’s so dangerous, you can’t take him up there!”
which only made us machos more determined that we should go, so we agreed
to meet back at the house at 7 AM the next day. We remained adamant throughout
breakfast, while la Sra hovered over us with coffee and advice and fresh
tortillas, and my beloved remained abed in the back room, but as we approached
the hillside bus stop he observed that the weather did not look favorable
and maybe we should go into town instead. He showed me a jam jar full
of water and fire opals, golden opals, even black opals from his hometown
in Jalisco. They blazed iridescently in the morning sun. We hailed a passing
bus and went to an upstairs restaurant in the Mercado, and spent the morning
drinking Nescafe waiting for an opal buyer who never arrived. He mentioned
that he was a card carrying member of the local
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composers’ association,
and next thing I knew we were heading to my bachelor pad with a bottle
of Cabritos tequila for a jam session. Back then I was the token gringo
in a Mexican rock band, playing almost every night, and my Zona Dorada
pad was the rehearsal room and party headquarters, so the place was a
bit of a mess (shockingly so, in fact). There were no clean glasses, and
you couldn’t get close enough to the kitchen sink to wash one, so we just
sat down at the table and passed the bottle back and forth. “What kind
of seeds are these?” he asked ironically, picking a few off the table.
“Grape seeds, I think.” “No, they don’t look like grape seeds.” “Oh, I
know, they’re bird seeds, our drummer brought his parrot here.” “Oh, sure.
Bird seeds.” We broke out the guitars and he strummed with a black pocket
comb and played a medley of his corridos, rancheras and baladas that sounded
like Willie Nelson singing Cielito Lindo, beautiful stuff. I picked along
as innocuously as I could, and we had a pretty good time. It being summer,
as the afternoon wore on the heat became oppressive so we retreated to
the air conditioned recamara and sat on the bed watching the Three Stooges
and baseball until the tequila ran out. It was Guy Heaven. I hadn’t got
much sleep the night before, and at some point I slipped down and nodded
off on the floor. When I woke up it was dark and my beloved’s father was
asleep on the bed. It wasn’t as bad as the scene in Planes, Trains etc
where Steve Martin wakes up next to John Candy, but it was a surprise
twist on the old who’s-this-in-my-bed-and-why-does-my-head-hurt-so-much
routine. To think that I got further with him than I had with his daughter
at that point. I guess you could say that we bonded that day. Now my kids
call him Abuelito and we do our best to appear dignified and respectable
at family gatherings, and I’m so glad to have a cool suegro.
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